SHALLY A.

He walked into my office for a scheduled meeting. I asked him to show me the updated document we had spoken about. He had a wry smile and stuttered,  ‘I have been busy with other things, for example…’ ‘Hold on. I made it clear this was a priority. Please, do the task I assigned immediately. Ask someone to help if needed.’  He was walking out of my office, and I heard those five letters muttered under his breath,  bitch I made a calculated analysis,  should I ignore or confront him . This confusion of how to maneuver egos is normalcy for women bosses. The prejudice towards women leaders as men poke their egos in our faces can be extreme. It seems that the ' s'  before the  ‘he’  springs forth a depth of annoyance covered up till a situation where real emotions burst forth.  ‘Mike, did you just call me a bitch?’ He turns around with the  shit I got caught face  and then takes the chicken shit route. ‘No, I didn’t.’ ‘Come back please and ha...

Looking in my nieces' eyes, piercing with questions that I have no answers to. She had asked  me, ‘Aunty, why are two men kissing?’ I was watching the show Empire, while she was sleeping. She had woken up, sneaked into the parlour, and caught the best of the scenes. The scenes you find hard to explain to a three-year-old who assumed relationships were a certain way. I felt a strange empathy for her growing up in a more dynamic world than I did, and confusion about how I needed to answer her questions.   Adults have a lot of explanation to do in this generation. Mothers, fathers, aunts, and uncles are sometimes not armed with the answers because we are in denial that the world has changed. The time for innocence is almost non-existent because we (and children) live in a Google everything world. Porn. Sex. Masturbation. Pedophilia. Rape.  As sexuality and the media evolves, how do we ensure our children are ready for a more dynamic world?  A while ago, I read the W...